Eckhart Tolle’s name continued to pop up. Never had I heard of him until he started popping up. Turns out he is not new news. With every sentence read and every page turned, there is this thin veil of anxiety, stress, frustration […]
Eckhart Tolle’s name continued to pop up. Never had I heard of him until he started popping up. Turns out he is not new news.
With every sentence read and every page turned, there is this thin veil of anxiety, stress, frustration and sadness that lifts and things seem to become more in focus.
Reading it reminds me of two of the podcasts I created a little more than a year ago. Then, I was struggling with depression, heartbreak, heartache and major imposter syndrome in my early, early stages of clarifying Grounds For Clarity into existence as a business. A soul-led and intuitively guided, business. Not simple. Not following anyone’s agenda, even mine. It is the divine’s agenda. Which is what is bringing the underscording of what Eckhart Tolle is a conduit for: Universal wisdom. This conversation with the Divine is becoming more and more central to the passing days. How often has your day, week, month been successful with your ego being in the driver’s seat? Being held emotionally accountable by ourselves is a fool’s errand. Reach out to others’ that will agree to not buy into your stories anymore, your self-sabotaging behaviors, your excuses, your settling…your rationalizing.
Exercise caution — the overall undertones of the podcasts come off quite heavy for those that may not be willing, ready or able to look past the vibes and hear the words.
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To those of you liking these blogs, what is it about the blog that you like? Also, what is your intention behind liking the blog? What skeletons in the closet of yours do the blog posts appearing here, on Grounds For Clarity, bring out?
If you are here because you are hungry and curious for your own sake, look here for what disruptions may be in store for you:
Are you feeling exhausted from no one believing you?
Tired of feeling misunderstood?
Sick and tired of, “It is what it is,” and forcing this daily grind because that is what grown-ups do?
It doesn’t have the carry on this way. It is all a choice.
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Sometimes I wonder how we may treat a friend, family member, colleague, acquaintance, etc, differently, if one of their 5 senses differed from ours. What if their body language was different? What if someone was actually incapable of producing the response you […]
Sometimes I wonder how we may treat a friend, family member, colleague, acquaintance, etc, differently, if one of their 5 senses differed from ours. What if their body language was different? What if someone was actually incapable of producing the response you wanted?
If I was unable to see, would someone berate me for improperly cleaning the dishes?
If I could not hear, would someone hold a grudge if I didn’t return a phone call?
If my fingers and hands didn’t do what I wanted them to, would I be thought a bad person because I didn’t return a gift, message or hold the door open for another?
I get the pain and suffering inherent we all are working through, I do. When we do not choose empathy, or sympathy, we become hard on ourselves — you punish yourself, guilt yourself, or make it about you, completely. That is a rabbit-hole to go down. The ego-trap.
What about looking at the situation in another way? The way you perceive reality cannot be readily superimposed unto another’s.
Mental Meanderings before Midnight
Raising my Self-awareness saved my life. We already are social distancing. Don’t emotionally distance, too.
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I do not like watching television. I do not like sitting and engaging in passive activities. So, as I sit here, although I do not like sitting, it does bring me joy to share what is on my mind. One of the […]
I do not like watching television. I do not like sitting and engaging in passive activities. So, as I sit here, although I do not like sitting, it does bring me joy to share what is on my mind. One of the things on my mind is Steven Universe.
I watched television…I have been watching television so much this past week and the reason being is because I was drawn to how a kindred spirit of mine “soft-marketed” Steven Universe as depicting the depth to which emotions can swerve us, impact us, move us. I was sold…
No spoilers here. Just musings.
Perfection is not real.
Pain is inevitable.
Appreciating another person’s experience is a choice.
There are no right or wrong answers.
We can get out of our own way.
Suffering is optional.
Another kindred spirit of mine has a message for you.
I can only speak for myself but I used to be that person that would rush to someone’s side at the first sign of their discomfort and seek to provide them some sort of resolution to their pain. I used to be […]
I can only speak for myself but I used to be that person that would rush to someone’s side at the first sign of their discomfort and seek to provide them some sort of resolution to their pain. I used to be that person that would turn a blind-eye to those completely stuck and creating more work, more drama for themselves, getting caught up in their feelings and get berated for it, yelled at. You get the picture. I felt like the world’s counselour, friends’, family and coworkers’ doormat and an empty shell of an existence. It got to the point that I felt my life had no purpose. Then a thought crept up for me, what if that wasn’t my purpose in life? What if my purpose had nothing to do with having a purpose? There was a moment that felt like just yesterday where I believed all the good feelings ended eventually and I was bound to lead a pointless, hopeless and helpless existence. That was, until I realized that just wasn’t true. Those feelings were just feelings and held no substance. It took guts, effort and persistence within that darkness to start saying no to that voice.
That voice always telling me that unless I am helping others, I am greedy.
That voice always telling me that unless I am smiling all the time, I am ungrateful.
That voice always telling me to keep quiet because what others thought of me was more significant than my own feelings and convictions.
That voice always telling me that it was other peoples’ actions, words and behavior that was the problem, not mine.
I was resistant, in denial and lost. That is a great place to break some serious ground and to seek out a space to sort through all of that. This is the space inspiration has manifested in my life. This space for others to unpack this new paradigm to challenge their way of life:
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I wonder what holds you back, those of you feeling jaded by the world, believing there is no point in this life anymore, so why bother experiencing it. Nothing good lasts anyway. What if I told you, you’re right. There is no point to your life. But then how would you feel if I challenged you and told you there doesn’t have to be a point. Then what?
Telling someone there is no point to life can be offputting for most. Not with Grounds For Clarity, LLC. Here, we resonate with you, hear you, see you and get where you are at. What is happening for you right now is a raised awareness to the possibility to a whole new way of living — thriving independently of this obsesssion with a higher purpose. The world was designed with us in mind — for us to be as we are. You are retiring from that and we want to support you in this transition in this life.
The endless torture of going to sleep and waking up day after day, suppressing your true feelings to alleged loves ones, friends, colleagues, is over. It ends here.
I invite you and your tribe to our weekend retreat the last weekend of June. Pause, breathe and just be.
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A Testimonial of a Life-Changing Weekend
I have come a long way in this mental illness journey. I can also be very set in my ways and unwilling to change in certain parts of my life. I owe everything to Kim Johnson and her retreat I took May 30th and 31st for the changes that I am working on in my life today. I went into the retreat as one person and came out as someone that could face head-on the problems that were holding me back.
Then Grounds for Clarity and its Thought Founder Kim Johnson found me and interviewed me about my suicide attempts. As she began to know my story, and as I shared my life beyond my writing. Kim made me challenge: would you invest in yourself to better understand the feeling of the weight of what at my core was causing me to be unhappy? My answer was yes.
I made a financial investment in myself and joined the Master Your Mind Retreat with Kim Johnson. A Mental Health Skills Lifestyle Coach.
Day One of Two
Heading into day one of a two-day and eight-hour digital retreat split evenly, I was anxious. I knew there were things in my life weighing me down. The feelings that I wanted to express were ones I have never really put out into the world. I knew Kim would challenge me. I needed the challenge.
What do you want?
That question would bring an avalanche of triggers and emotions. Was I ready? The first things that came to mind were the following: I want happiness in all aspects of my life, figure out why I keep people at a distance in my life, and most of all, why do I shy away from relationships and human intimacy? These are struggles that have always eluded me.
After we talked about what we wanted out of the retreat, Kim spoke about an essential part of the weekend that we needed to face. Our inner voice–The Gremlin. what it was was keeping us from the success and satisfaction in our lives. My inner voice has always been loud because I keep people at a distance so that it makes it easy to rationalize why I am, for the most part, going through life on my own. I spend my day alone. I work online, alone. Grad school is online, and I do it alone. My mental health advocacy online, alone. I even do my shopping online, alone. Isolation for me was not only during COVID-19.
The most significant glaring part of my inner voice was the separation of James, the writer, and David the human being. Kim and my fellow retreat members helped me realize that I was using James as a wall to keep people out of David’s life. (I separated my writing life as James from David because it made me a better writer.) I was in awe at the end of the day, one that I was beginning to feel less invisible. It was only day one, and I was already blown away at the challenges Kim was asking me to make.
The most emotional core feeling was that I was not enough. Not enough to be happy. I was not enough to be with someone that loved me. That we only get one chance at true love and that I had been there, and did that once. It was holding me back. Every relationship since my life I compare to this unicorn idea. I felt that I was not worth anyone’s time at a level that allows people into my life. I needed to be alone.
What I was learning is that there are no right or wrong answers. Kim is not there to fix me because I have to make the changes. I was broken but that means that those core feelings could be changed.
She is the catalyst that makes you think and challenges the regrets, the guilt, the denial, and what the inner voice is telling you. On day two, I knew I wanted to focus on one thing. What happened in the past made it okay for me to go through life alone and be unhappy as David. That was the challenge, finally letting David into the fold.
What is great about Kim’s retreat is that she is part of it, not just as a Mental Health Skills Lifestyle Coach but as a participant. She has all the training at her disposal and it allows her to be a part of the healing process. That was what day two was for me, a chance to begin to heal. I decided to take the challenge: what my running away from happiness was costing me? I opened up in this retreat for the first time about a relationship early on that has defined the reason I feel that being alone is preferable to letting someone into my life.
I cried because I have held this in for so long. I had to face that I was okay with being alone. It hurt to admit that I wanted someone in my life. Friendships beyond the few that make it into the inner circle. The pain of opening up to others outside the retreat that I am not okay with being alone. I read once in a book that “pain demands to be felt,” At that moment, the pain was demanding that I let it into my life because that is where you can decide to make a change. If you never feel, how can you heal?
The retreat members helped me understand the feelings I had shoved deep into a box marked “never open.” The homework before was answering questions that led to my Energy Leadership Report. I learned with my results that I don’t deal with stress well. I learned that I am better than I treat myself most days. I can help others, but my own self-care is left to the wayside. I learned that I am worthy of making changes that are important to me. I became a better human being than when I started the retreat.
The Purpose Statement
I will make a commitment to let go of the things I think I need to control using my writing, to accomplish traveling more, and, in doing so, achieve to begin letting people into David’s life.
Final Thoughts on the Retreat
If you want to stop the feeling of being a burden, alone, quit living with regret, feeling weak in your life, or what is keeping you from being truly happy. Kim’s Master Your Mind Retreat is the place you need to be. It was for me. I don’t often promote something unless it’s important to me because that is how The Bipolar Writer Blog was founded.
When I say that when you invest in yourself with Kim, it is for life because that is how she runs her business. This testimonial is my heart and soul pouring out to those like me that are struggling with something that is keeping you from being happy. You have the right to feel better than you are at this moment and time. I invite you to reach out to Kim to spark this necessary conversation and to begin the inner work.
Always Keep Fighting
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Hi there. Today is a day like no other because it is its own day. Maybe you are feeling not so great today, maybe, you do not feel, maybe you just are human and that’s that. There is no judgment here. I […]
Hi there. Today is a day like no other because it is its own day. Maybe you are feeling not so great today, maybe, you do not feel, maybe you just are human and that’s that. There is no judgment here. I can appreciate any preference for how to convey feelings. I am here today to speak on how to confront “bad” feelings in relationships. For my posts, when I write about relationships, I am not restricting the context of relationships to to partnerships regarding romance. When I write, relationship is defined as any human to human interaction independent of title, setting, duration or reason for the interaction.
I am going to get real focused, real quick. I challenge you to do the same. Think of ONE relationship, and a single instance in that relationship. Visualize it all in its entirety. Please focus on just that setting and the instance, not the past or potential future interactions…take a minute. I want you to relive the moment, the pain and potential suffering. Let the extraneous details melt away…accept the details of the environment, they now melt away. Consider the feel of the floor, the smell are the area, regard the clothes being worn, if you were hungry, if it was that time of the month, if it was through a device that this interaction took place…let the outlet of social media melt away, and finally, let the face of the other person melt away and now, all that is left, is you. Consider your body, your reflection, you….and let that also melt away…let all of the visual go away. What is left? Your thoughts, feelings…emotions, beliefs, behaviors. Now…marinate in all of these for a minute.
I would like you to do some final things for me before we get to the “bad” feelings..accept the thoughts, accept the feelings, emotions and behaviors….let them melt away. What is left now are the beliefs. What moved your spirit to respond emotionally the way you did? Get down deep, and dirty and messy. What happened in the past which is the grandmother or grandfather of all future instances…that would then trigger the EXACT same emotions, feelings, and thoughts you felt from memory 0?
Please consider deeply what happened in the past that created this belief. All of our thoughts, feelings, emotions and behaviors..the bad feelings that come up from soured interactions, can derive and do derive from some bitterly held on to negative, heavy, dark, or “bad” blood and feelings residual from a past event. Answer me this, what is it costing you in your current relationship? Consider the present gain or future pains, current pains, future gains, depending upon your course of action. The way I see it, you have only a small handful of options when it comes to your interactions. You can: remain a victim, leave, accept, change it, change your point of view.
One of the foundation principles, or philosophical reaches of the coaching school I went to iPEC is:
Pain is inevitable, suffering, is optional.
What do you think about the quote I just shared?
Finding your emotions taking a turn, feeling in a place of confusion, feeling wrought with regret and torn with guilt? What lesson are you avoiding healing from? You could be burnt out and don’t even know it. Emotionally spent, fatigued […]
Finding your emotions taking a turn, feeling in a place of confusion, feeling wrought with regret and torn with guilt?
What lesson are you avoiding healing from?