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I can only speak for myself but I used to be that person that would rush to someone’s side at the first sign of their discomfort and seek to provide them some sort of resolution to their pain. I used to be that person that would turn a blind-eye to those completely stuck and creating more work, more drama for themselves, getting caught up in their feelings and get berated for it, yelled at. You get the picture. I felt like the world’s counselour, friends’, family and coworkers’ doormat and an empty shell of an existence. It got to the point that I felt my life had no purpose. Then a thought crept up for me, what if that wasn’t my purpose in life? What if my purpose had nothing to do with having a purpose? There was a moment that felt like just yesterday where I believed all the good feelings ended eventually and I was bound to lead a pointless, hopeless and helpless existence. That was, until I realized that just wasn’t true. Those feelings were just feelings and held no substance. It took guts, effort and persistence within that darkness to start saying no to that voice.

That voice always telling me that unless I am helping others, I am greedy.

That voice always telling me that unless I am smiling all the time, I am ungrateful.

That voice always telling me to keep quiet because what others thought of me was more significant than my own feelings and convictions.

That voice always telling me that it was other peoples’ actions, words and behavior that was the problem, not mine.

I was resistant, in denial and lost. That is a great place to break some serious ground and to seek out a space to sort through all of that. This is the space inspiration has manifested in my life. This space for others to unpack this new paradigm to challenge their way of life:

Letting Go

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I wonder what holds you back, those of you feeling jaded by the world, believing there is no point in this life anymore, so why bother experiencing it. Nothing good lasts anyway. What if I told you, you’re right. There is no point to your life. But then how would you feel if I challenged you and told you there doesn’t have to be a point. Then what?

Telling someone there is no point to life can be offputting for most. Not with Grounds For Clarity, LLC. Here, we resonate with you, hear you, see you and get where you are at. What is happening for you right now is a raised awareness to the possibility to a whole new way of living — thriving independently of this obsesssion with a higher purpose. The world was designed with us in mind — for us to be as we are. You are retiring from that and we want to support you in this transition in this life.

The endless torture of going to sleep and waking up day after day, suppressing your true feelings to alleged loves ones, friends, colleagues, is over. It ends here.

I invite you and your tribe to our weekend retreat the last weekend of June. Pause, breathe and just be.

Still not convinced? Read on. 

A Testimonial of a Life-Changing Weekend

 

I have come a long way in this mental illness journey. I can also be very set in my ways and unwilling to change in certain parts of my life. I owe everything to Kim Johnson and her retreat I took May 30th and 31st for the changes that I am working on in my life today. I went into the retreat as one person and came out as someone that could face head-on the problems that were holding me back. 

 

Then Grounds for Clarity and its Thought Founder Kim Johnson found me and interviewed me about my suicide attempts. As she began to know my story, and as I shared my life beyond my writing. Kim made me challenge: would you invest in yourself to better understand the feeling of the weight of what at my core was causing me to be unhappy? My answer was yes. 

 

I made a financial investment in myself and joined the Master Your Mind Retreat with Kim Johnson. A Mental Health Skills Lifestyle Coach.

Day One of Two

Heading into day one of a two-day and eight-hour digital retreat split evenly, I was anxious. I knew there were things in my life weighing me down. The feelings that I wanted to express were ones I have never really put out into the world. I knew Kim would challenge me. I needed the challenge.

What do you want?

That question would bring an avalanche of triggers and emotions. Was I ready? The first things that came to mind were the following: I want happiness in all aspects of my life, figure out why I keep people at a distance in my life, and most of all, why do I shy away from relationships and human intimacy? These are struggles that have always eluded me.

The Gremlin

After we talked about what we wanted out of the retreat, Kim spoke about an essential part of the weekend that we needed to face. Our inner voice–The Gremlin. what it was was keeping us from the success and satisfaction in our lives. My inner voice has always been loud because I keep people at a distance so that it makes it easy to rationalize why I am, for the most part, going through life on my own. I spend my day alone. I work online, alone. Grad school is online, and I do it alone. My mental health advocacy online, alone. I even do my shopping online, alone. Isolation for me was not only during COVID-19.

The most significant glaring part of my inner voice was the separation of James, the writer, and David the human being. Kim and my fellow retreat members helped me realize that I was using James as a wall to keep people out of David’s life. (I separated my writing life as James from David because it made me a better writer.) I was in awe at the end of the day, one that I was beginning to feel less invisible. It was only day one, and I was already blown away at the challenges Kim was asking me to make.

 

The most emotional core feeling was that I was not enough. Not enough to be happy. I was not enough to be with someone that loved me. That we only get one chance at true love and that I had been there, and did that once. It was holding me back. Every relationship since my life I compare to this unicorn idea. I felt that I was not worth anyone’s time at a level that allows people into my life. I needed to be alone.

 

Day Two

What I was learning is that there are no right or wrong answers. Kim is not there to fix me because I have to make the changes. I was broken but that means that those core feelings could be changed.

 

She is the catalyst that makes you think and challenges the regrets, the guilt, the denial, and what the inner voice is telling you. On day two, I knew I wanted to focus on one thing. What happened in the past made it okay for me to go through life alone and be unhappy as David. That was the challenge, finally letting David into the fold. 

 

What is great about Kim’s retreat is that she is part of it, not just as a Mental Health Skills Lifestyle Coach but as a participant. She has all the training at her disposal and it allows her to be a part of the healing process. That was what day two was for me, a chance to begin to heal. I decided to take the challenge: what my running away from happiness was costing me? I opened up in this retreat for the first time about a relationship early on that has defined the reason I feel that being alone is preferable to letting someone into my life. 

 

I cried because I have held this in for so long. I had to face that I was okay with being alone. It hurt to admit that I wanted someone in my life. Friendships beyond the few that make it into the inner circle. The pain of opening up to others outside the retreat that I am not okay with being alone. I read once in a book that “pain demands to be felt,” At that moment, the pain was demanding that I let it into my life because that is where you can decide to make a change. If you never feel, how can you heal?

 

The retreat members helped me understand the feelings I had shoved deep into a box marked “never open.” The homework before was answering questions that led to my Energy Leadership Report. I learned with my results that I don’t deal with stress well. I learned that I am better than I treat myself most days. I can help others, but my own self-care is left to the wayside. I learned that I am worthy of making changes that are important to me. I became a better human being than when I started the retreat.

 

The Purpose Statement

I will make a commitment to let go of the things I think I need to control using my writing, to accomplish traveling more, and, in doing so, achieve to begin letting people into David’s life.

 

Final Thoughts on the Retreat

If you want to stop the feeling of being a burden, alone, quit living with regret, feeling weak in your life, or what is keeping you from being truly happy. Kim’s Master Your Mind Retreat is the place you need to be. It was for me. I don’t often promote something unless it’s important to me because that is how The Bipolar Writer Blog was founded.

 

When I say that when you invest in yourself with Kim, it is for life because that is how she runs her business. This testimonial is my heart and soul pouring out to those like me that are struggling with something that is keeping you from being happy. You have the right to feel better than you are at this moment and time. I invite you to reach out to Kim to spark this necessary conversation and to begin the inner work.

 

Always Keep Fighting

James

 

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pikjohnson@ucdavis.edu
I want this to be a safe space to share my goings-on while I dig deep into my journey of self-discovery. What brings me to my desire to share my journey? I wish to provide life-coaching services to others. I coach to help others uncover what it is that is holding them back from accomplishing what is dearest in their hearts, spirit and minds. I am currently a student at iPEC, Institute of Professional Excellence in coaching. I am determined to disseminate my coaching services to all those interested. While I coach, I also would like to share bits and pieces of what it is that I do as a life coach-to-be and inversely, what I do not do. I am an imagineer, at your service. That is the best way I can describe a life coach to you. As a life coach-to-be, I can teach you how to think outside the box, consider alternative perspectives and reflect on what influences your thoughts. If any of this sounds like something you are experiencing, what is stopping you from moving forward? A space to message me may be found on the middle menu option on my home page. I acknowledge, appreciate and embody gratitude for each and every one of you and the struggles which you endeavour each and every moment. No one is a stranger to adversity. We can all overcome adversity because of our combined diversity. Thank you for contributing your time into our growing and collective, worldly diversity. Endearingly yours, Kim

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