How can we begin to help someone?

By learning what their needs are.

How do we help ourselves to help others more effectively when we cannot meet their needs, and feel like their only source of support?

Here is an example some of you may be able to resonate with:
Say something suddenly happens and instead of your daily routine being dropping off your child at school, they now have to stay home and essentially, become “home-schooled”. There is a specific subject that they struggle with and that is writing. Let’s say for the sake of this example, you struggle immensely, too, with writing. You try again and again and again to help them but it ends up adding to the strain and stress on you and your child, both feeling dejected that nothing productive is happening, no writing. In spite of excelling in other subjects, it is impacting their morale and in turn, yours.

You try in vain to help anyway and begin pulling from your knowledge of geography, history, the sciences and math. You present all that to your child, but it doesn’t help them with their writing, which is their main pain point in their studies. What do you do to help serve the needs of your child which are writing? Do you continue doing maths instead? Or balancing chemical reactions with them? Do you switch to teach them facts about the middle ages?

The same is to be said with supporting someone emotionally. We each have a lifetimes store of knowledge in how we perceive “helping” someone. I wonder if some of you feel like the dejected parent above, that in spite of all of the knowledge and expertise you have, you still fall short of meeting the needs of someone you really want to help and see struggling. What can we do? Let’s relate this challenge in a parent being unable to help meet their child’s need for academic support in writing.

How many of you have found yourself in this situation where you know someone is struggling emotionally but don’t know where to turn to?

How many of you have found yourself with no way out aside from just trying to show how serious your pain is to others, to be met with silence?

How many of you have found yourself in a situation where you know you care and know you want to be that person to help but don’t know what to do?

We can best help those that need us by becoming more learned in understanding their core needs.

Why am I talking about this right now? Is this another COVID-19 post like any other? No. And maybe. Yes.

I am talking about this right now because I see a bunch of people flooding social media with happy posts, smiles, and just keeping the positivity going. It is great to see so much focus on things that get our heart rate up. Let us complement this positivity with some regard for how a lot of people are feeling right now but wish not to open up about it. People feeling down don’t need more positivity, they need someone to listen. People feeling down, isolated and in pain don’t need to be cheered up, they need to be honored, respected and validated. These are not productive approaches to supporting loved ones in an emotional crisis. What you are doing is exactly what the parent in the above example is doing. THIS is why I am talking about this right now. THIS is why I am talking about LivingWorks Start.

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Author

pikjohnson@ucdavis.edu
I want this to be a safe space to share my goings-on while I dig deep into my journey of self-discovery. What brings me to my desire to share my journey? I wish to provide life-coaching services to others. I coach to help others uncover what it is that is holding them back from accomplishing what is dearest in their hearts, spirit and minds. I am currently a student at iPEC, Institute of Professional Excellence in coaching. I am determined to disseminate my coaching services to all those interested. While I coach, I also would like to share bits and pieces of what it is that I do as a life coach-to-be and inversely, what I do not do. I am an imagineer, at your service. That is the best way I can describe a life coach to you. As a life coach-to-be, I can teach you how to think outside the box, consider alternative perspectives and reflect on what influences your thoughts. If any of this sounds like something you are experiencing, what is stopping you from moving forward? A space to message me may be found on the middle menu option on my home page. I acknowledge, appreciate and embody gratitude for each and every one of you and the struggles which you endeavour each and every moment. No one is a stranger to adversity. We can all overcome adversity because of our combined diversity. Thank you for contributing your time into our growing and collective, worldly diversity. Endearingly yours, Kim

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