…it is about seeing the problem through different lenses. I find it interesting how much insight we miss out on when we refuse to look at problems through different lenses. We each carry within us phenomenal power and capability to view the world through such unique ways. I have my moments where I consider myself full of righteous rage because there is some piece of me that sees pieces of others not done justice from the sheer amount of judgment foisted upon them just for seeing the world a different way. And in some cases, I have my moments where I feel full with righteous anger that we warp our sense of compassion to mean being a bystander when others are going down a path of loss, isolation and pain. Compassion is about speaking the truth and being iron sharpening iron. For sometimes, our own truths become warped by our own egos.
I read through your blogs from time to time and although I may not agree with everything I see, or feel all that resonance with what you write, I find myself relieved and can appreciate that you care enough to share what what is important to you in this world so that we may see things from a different point of view that we may have missed before. Everything we experience in life is all about that — the experience.
The same can probably be true with what is at the core of my blog. Perhaps some of you feel uncomfortable with what Grounds For Clarity holds and what comprises our feelings, beliefs and thoughts. Maybe, some of you are incensed, preoccupied and or it has nothing to do with me and you have your hands full. It could be any reason. I speak and create this platform because it is my calling to provide a space, a voice for those that otherwise would be left overlooked by society, including those that wish they were more prepared. You do not have to like us. You do not have to follow us. And you do not have to listen. There is no obligation here. This is a space for everyone to embrace our differences and to push back, to do justice for those parts of us we feel like we ought not to open up and share. My point in being candid with all of you is this right here….
Suicide is not a problem that needs to be fixed. That is not what this platform is about. If that is how you perceived the platform, I wish to clarify. The purpose of this platform, Grounds For Clarity, is to restore opportunity for us to evaluate that we all look through very different lenses at the same topic — suicide. When we spend time accusing one another’s viewpoints as being more right than another or one person’s viewpoint as more wrong than another, how much benefit vs. missed opportunity are we sowing if we had just taken the time to understand we all want the same thing: to promote hope for inner peace.
The purpose for speaking suicide openly and directly is to ensure that even for those of you that aren’t sure or do not speak its name, that I can provide that first step for you. I hear you asking for help and your pain is so great that suicide may be on your mind. We are here for you. Your willingness to follow along, read our posts and engage in these conversations shows other community members that you are someone people can turn to whom are also willing to breach the topic of suicide. After all, there is more to suicide than suicide and it in and of itself is not the problem needing fixing, it is to realize that although me may view suicide through very different lenses, we can still support one another without judgment. There is no problem. There are only our perceptions of the problem that get in ours ways to seeing the humanity in one another and the connectedness we are all desperate for.
Ready to join the Grounds For Clarity movement yet still feel unprepared or wish to feel more prepared to talk about suicide? Still unsure how to talk to someone about suicide be it for you or for another? I invite you to comment below or reach out via WhatsApp or email via contact form below. We will respond within the next 24 hours PDT.
I am patiently awaiting the results of a collaborative video I created with Cassie Eads which underscores our need for realizing our lenses and how it impacts how we show up for one another. Our discussion emphasizes having those tough and scary conversations about suicide in a parent and child relationship. The ASIST skills I speak of, the Suicide Intervention skills I speak on, know no bounds, see beyond relationship titles and roles, through to the core of the intervention which is respect and collaborative discussion.
Stay tuned for the link which I will post here.