Yes. Suicide can be scary to talk about and that’s fear. That’s all it is, is fear. And, of course we are afraid to talk about suicide for fear what others might think of us or worse, say. Of course we are afraid to breach discussion on suicide because we are taught to avoid intervening if we aren’t trained. Of course we are afraid to come forward about it because we don’t want to make any mistakes. And of course, we are afraid to open up about suicide maybe being on our mind because repercussions may lead us to be labeled, pathologized or not be taken seriously.
And really, there is more to suicide than suicide. Here is something to frame this so it makes more sense.
When working on the Suicide Crisis Prevention Line, I was learning all of the terminology related to Suicide Intervention as I went to operate the hotline alone. For me, the steep learning curve was part of it because All in All, I had only myself to reflect with (this detail is important for further context). When speaking with people calling the crisis line, I started noticing a pattern…most of them did not have suicide on their mind, they merely sought out a means to an end to their emotional pain.
Suicide is more than just suicide. It is about being in a state of emotional overwhelm and the dam holding back all the stress, all of the frustration, all of the numbness, hopelessness and despair, has broken. This is not a spontaneous event and having pain build up takes time. Suicide is not an isolated event. We all actually know more about suicide than we might think if we can frame it through the lens of emotional overwhelm and breakdowns of dams. Working alone on the hotline made me pay attention to the fact that the only person with the answers I needed to hear them from was the person on the other line with me.
It is okay to be unsure where to start. And of course we are scared because we do not wish to hurt anyone or we are scared of being judged for having these thoughts. This is because there are worldwide stigmas and taboos associated with suicide. Have hope: Anyone can learn how to become more prepared to emotionally support one another and life can prevail.
Some questions to consider before watching:
🤝 To whom is it important to have a resolution? You or the other person?
🤝 What is propelling the conversation?
🤝 On whose terms and on whose timeline am I seeing from?
🤝 What stands between me and the other person getting through to one another?
Who should watch this video?
Anyone regardless of their formal and informal roles, anyone 16 years or older interested in learning first steps to providing emotional support for one another when in crisis.
Cassie Eads is a mother to two boys. She is a Life Mastery Consultant and CEO of Listen Within to Win.
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