How come we can’t feel good anymore?

We wake up every day focusing on things we don’t have, things not going right and on things we have lost. We wake up every day focusing on things we cannot control, on things we may lose and how it would feel if things don’t go the way we have planned.

It is possible to create an intimate relationship with expectations — expectations that things you once had, people you are close to, and your faculties that you have. What happens when we create expectations? We start to build a relationship with said person, place or thing in which we subconsciously expect it to remain or be there, to the point that we no longer have to guess or predict its presence in our life. It is no wonder we become hurt or afraid, with loss and in pain when change happens.

This is an overly possessive relationship. We, as humans, don’t own anything. We do not even own our own bodies. Think about it. What is actually ours and how come we become offended when things change? We as humans can be more creative than this. We can innovate and pivot out of some self-harmful thought patterns and intimate relationships with overly-possessive behaviors with persons, places or things.

Note to self: Hey, you have some work to do yourself, why are you telling this thing to the world if you yourself struggle with these things?

Because iron sharpens iron. We all have a chance to shift, to pivot and to break away from self-harmful thought and behavior patterns that are contributing more to our emotional pain. Take a page from Humanity’s book — at what point did possessiveness ever really provide for a more communal thriving of the world? Taking steps to become more self-aware of how our thought and behavior patterns are connected to the outcomes we see and in many ways cannot see to the naked eye, in the world, we can become a more proactive part of fueling inner peace for us all. Becoming more self-aware connects us more to our innate human being and spiritual connectedness with humans we may never even meet. Tap into connecting with one another by letting a lot of things go, let go of those possessive thought and behavior patterns and feel creative again or maybe for some of you, for the first time.

One suggestion I have for you, unplug for a day. What I mean is, turn off your phone, stop watching t.v., stop talking to others, stop producing things just for the sake of being productive. Un. Plug. It may provide insight into why you keep spinning your wheels. In the era of information overload, we are bombarded with subliminal messages aaaaallllllll  day long. And imagine, all the people in your life, are exposed to that, too. So….take a necessary break from that hyper-connectedness and breathe of your own pace, self-realize to self-change. Reach for that inner peace.


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I want this to be a safe space to share my goings-on while I dig deep into my journey of self-discovery. What brings me to my desire to share my journey? I wish to provide life-coaching services to others. I coach to help others uncover what it is that is holding them back from accomplishing what is dearest in their hearts, spirit and minds. I am currently a student at iPEC, Institute of Professional Excellence in coaching. I am determined to disseminate my coaching services to all those interested. While I coach, I also would like to share bits and pieces of what it is that I do as a life coach-to-be and inversely, what I do not do. I am an imagineer, at your service. That is the best way I can describe a life coach to you. As a life coach-to-be, I can teach you how to think outside the box, consider alternative perspectives and reflect on what influences your thoughts. If any of this sounds like something you are experiencing, what is stopping you from moving forward? A space to message me may be found on the middle menu option on my home page. I acknowledge, appreciate and embody gratitude for each and every one of you and the struggles which you endeavour each and every moment. No one is a stranger to adversity. We can all overcome adversity because of our combined diversity. Thank you for contributing your time into our growing and collective, worldly diversity. Endearingly yours, Kim

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