We wake up every day focusing on things we don’t have, things not going right and on things we have lost. We wake up every day focusing on things we cannot control, on things we may lose and how it would feel if things don’t go the way we have planned.
It is possible to create an intimate relationship with expectations — expectations that things you once had, people you are close to, and your faculties that you have. What happens when we create expectations? We start to build a relationship with said person, place or thing in which we subconsciously expect it to remain or be there, to the point that we no longer have to guess or predict its presence in our life. It is no wonder we become hurt or afraid, with loss and in pain when change happens.
This is an overly possessive relationship. We, as humans, don’t own anything. We do not even own our own bodies. Think about it. What is actually ours and how come we become offended when things change? We as humans can be more creative than this. We can innovate and pivot out of some self-harmful thought patterns and intimate relationships with overly-possessive behaviors with persons, places or things.
Note to self: Hey, you have some work to do yourself, why are you telling this thing to the world if you yourself struggle with these things?
Because iron sharpens iron. We all have a chance to shift, to pivot and to break away from self-harmful thought and behavior patterns that are contributing more to our emotional pain. Take a page from Humanity’s book — at what point did possessiveness ever really provide for a more communal thriving of the world? Taking steps to become more self-aware of how our thought and behavior patterns are connected to the outcomes we see and in many ways cannot see to the naked eye, in the world, we can become a more proactive part of fueling inner peace for us all. Becoming more self-aware connects us more to our innate human being and spiritual connectedness with humans we may never even meet. Tap into connecting with one another by letting a lot of things go, let go of those possessive thought and behavior patterns and feel creative again or maybe for some of you, for the first time.
One suggestion I have for you, unplug for a day. What I mean is, turn off your phone, stop watching t.v., stop talking to others, stop producing things just for the sake of being productive. Un. Plug. It may provide insight into why you keep spinning your wheels. In the era of information overload, we are bombarded with subliminal messages aaaaallllllll day long. And imagine, all the people in your life, are exposed to that, too. So….take a necessary break from that hyper-connectedness and breathe of your own pace, self-realize to self-change. Reach for that inner peace.
One of my favorite musings: