F.O.M.O.; Fear of Missing Out

What personality type is immune to the F.O.M.O. syndrome? None. As far as I can recollect, none. What area in your life do you believe you experience F.O.M.O.? Up until recently, I believed I experienced it primarily in my personal life always wondering if I was trying enough, doing enough, being enough. It turns out all of that F.O.M.O. I previously believed was isolated, wasn’t isolated at all…it bled into ALL aspects of my life. That. Is unsettling.

The opposite of F.O.M.O. is “settling.” I wonder, where in my life could I be settling instead of feeling like the grass is greener on the other side? What am I compromising if I were to pursue the lifestyle I believe to be settling? Something heavy I have been considering over the past four months or so is…is my personality fear-based? Do I constantly make decisions stemming from fear? Am I conscious of that? Are you? How much of your life is a rendition of a fear-based life? Scary thought..in which case maybe there is a new F.O.M.O., of the opposite and true life screaming at you to grab it. Basically what I am getting at here is what are you so afraid of either way?

Let’s press pause on this F.O.M.O. topic and speak of lighter things. Bring your focus to where you are right now. Take a look at your posture, shift your feet, look where your hands are, and feel where your heart is. Take a deep breath…and slowly…exhale…and breathe normally. Divert your attention to where you are carrying all of your tension, check in on your anxiety levels, acknowledge these things and allow them to just BE. Make a request to these tense and anxious forces in your body for just a few moments for yourself, to be calm, be still and to consider something what could be really beneficial for you. Now, imagine that 24 hours from now, something has changed in your environment, you are unsure what it is. Everything is in its order. You sense a different smell in the air electric. The day has just begun. The energy is bursting through you and what you felt in the past 24 hours no longer exists. What is it that you are feeling right now? How are you feeling toward what was causing the tension and anxiety in your body?

Please take your time and recognize your body in space and time as you come to. Take note of the feelings and ideas that may have come up for you.

Press play on the F.O.M.O. button. For those that may be new to the acronym, F.O.M.O. stands for Fear of Missing Out. Anxiety comes forth on the basis of an obsession with and constant partaking in updates of what everyone else is doing in their life. I just looked up a picture of a likely equal and opposite force and would like your take on it, as far as it concerns your personality:

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J.O.M.O. stands for Joy of Missing Out. Ponder…What is the most important thing for you to feel RIGHT NOW?

We may have our personalities but at the end of the day, what defines our present is how much we allow our fear to hold us back from feeling emotions that we truly desire. Today, determine how you wish to feel and do not hold back. Find that inner calm and true joy so it feels like you are always doing something that you want to do. If you can, take those microsteps toward reaching for something you yearn to do so badly that the F.O.M.O. is apprehensive of you. Reach for J.O.M.O.. In the meantime, if any of this really spoke to you, I invite you to speak to me. I would love to hear your thoughts on what I had to say today.


I want this to be a safe space to share my goings-on while I dig deep into my journey of self-discovery. What brings me to my desire to share my journey? I wish to provide life-coaching services to others. I coach to help others uncover what it is that is holding them back from accomplishing what is dearest in their hearts, spirit and minds. I am currently a student at iPEC, Institute of Professional Excellence in coaching. I am determined to disseminate my coaching services to all those interested. While I coach, I also would like to share bits and pieces of what it is that I do as a life coach-to-be and inversely, what I do not do. I am an imagineer, at your service. That is the best way I can describe a life coach to you. As a life coach-to-be, I can teach you how to think outside the box, consider alternative perspectives and reflect on what influences your thoughts. If any of this sounds like something you are experiencing, what is stopping you from moving forward? A space to message me may be found on the middle menu option on my home page. I acknowledge, appreciate and embody gratitude for each and every one of you and the struggles which you endeavour each and every moment. No one is a stranger to adversity. We can all overcome adversity because of our combined diversity. Thank you for contributing your time into our growing and collective, worldly diversity. Endearingly yours, Kim


Brandon Moncion
January 15, 2019 at 12:18 am

After reading this post, I thought of someone in my personal life that can really relate to this. Within our discussions he’ll always rant about how other people in our circles or social media are doing great things in their lives and he’s just stuck in a rut. And what I’ll say to him is that, ” you can’t project yourself onto other people or live vicariously through them”. The people on social media are most likely selling you a fantasy that they only want you to see. Or lets say a personal friend tells you all the adventures that they had. So I’ll ask you this, ” are they transparent enough to reveal the darkest parts of them selves”? Will they open up to say how they really feel, what trials and tribulations that person went through to get where they are?

To summarize this all this in a nutshell before I keep rambling on. You are never going to be other people and they’re not going to be you. There can be some simlarities between people, sure. But different. You are unique, own it. The good and the bad. There is no official book to living life. You have to be an author to own story. Stop being a admirer, start being a signature.

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