One of my favorite things to do is to watch videos of the diverse lives we all lead. I feel insodoing, I develop a deeper respect and appreciation for various avenues humans traverse in the face of adversity. We all respond, act, and react to adversity in different ways because we all have differing past experiences. I find it fascinating and totally normal to compare our lives to another’s for validation, perspective shift, or other. When we compare experiences, it helps us to cope with our own feelings toward circumstance — to feel reassured that we are not, in fact, alone. The fact of the matter is, we all go through good times and we all go through growing times. Adversely, we are all especially conscientious how to overcome our own adversities without drawing too much attention to ourselves or exploiting another’s life to feel better about our own. It makes complete sense that we wish to stay under the radar, to receive validation for it, but not broadcast and be overtly Broadway about it if we feel alone. To overcome such self-judgments, I turned to YouTube, primarily, as a way to gain insight into the many ways lifestyles are dictated by our choices in the face of adversity. Diversity is what ties us all together. We are all so different, which I find to be the most beautiful gift of all. I respect you and I want you to know that.
Even if we are left to our own coping devices, we find ourselves deeply down, sad, anxious, stressed and fatigued. What do we believe we need to address or resolve before successfully overcoming our obstacles?
Consider any or all questions below and dig deep:
What does it mean for you to be emotionally spent?
What feelings come up for you when you are emotionally spent?
What do you sense when you are emotionally spent?
In the meantime, give yourself mental space as an encouragement venue for taking time out of your day to consider what fuels your current emotional state. I challenge you to treat yourself as a champion of difference. You can support yourself, you can be who you choose to be and you are important. You are a strong individual and your experience speaks up and out the adversity which you are taking steps towards overcoming right now. You are right where you are supposed to be. Consider this: I am you and so, you are me. As one of my client’s says, we can draw from one another’s strengths and with that having been said, we have infinite potential for capacity and an unlimited knowledge base. There is more clarity in diversity.
In growing times, having additional support helps us to gain an additional layer in self-learning. Therapy and counseling can help us to work toward healing from our past. Life coaching doesn’t include therapy or counseling and is not a substitute for seeking clinical and professional support. With that having been said, in the event you are looking for a life coach, it is vital that you let them know that you are seeing a therapist, have seen a therapist and/ or are considering seeing one. In my case, I would expect to know at what point you may stand.
I divert to speaking on this topic to emphasize this will be my niche. I wish to provide learning opportunities and growth potential in personal development to those working toward healing from their past. It is okay and normal to be in counseling and therapy, and to want to work toward healing from past wounds. We all would like to be present so that we can feel calm, cool and collected enough to step forward out of our circles, our comfort zones, if you will. In addition, I want to help those currently coming into psychological counseling or therapy gain clarity and focus for creation of that first step out. Contact me here to learn more.
Here is a link to my first blog post. The post is about button pushing and ways you can manage your reactive state, pre, during, and post experience of when you have a growing moment. The steps I shared here is part of a toolkit that I teach you as a Life coach to be with a niche in personal development. This is a tool that I gained credit of iPEC and I wish to share it with you. Reaching out for support in growing times can be overwhelming and intimidating of a process. Feeling uncertain and unsure about how to manage one’s reactions is completely normal and anyone in your shoes would feel the same way. All of our learning opportunities occur on a case-by-case basis but if you do decide that taking the chance and applying this tool will work for you, then it will. I believe in you and I know you have it in you to conquer your growing moment. Self-care, creating boundaries and catching yourself in the heat of a learning opportunity takes practice and I know you can do this. You are worth it and you deserve clarity.